Robert Paynter, NCPS
10 years in practice
Robert Paynter NCPS is a counsellor who uses a systemic perspective to understand how relationships and environments affect wellbeing.
License and registration
- NCPS
- NCS20-01745 · expires June 2026
- Years in practice
- 10
- Languages
- English, Afrikaans, Portuguese
Details are as listed on the therapist's public professional profile. You can check the registration with the body that granted it.
About Robert
Robert Paynter NCPS is a counsellor who uses a systemic perspective to understand how relationships and environments affect wellbeing. He combines that with straightforward, practical work to help people tackle stress, anxiety, addiction and low self-esteem. He speaks English, Afrikaans and Portuguese and works with people across the United Kingdom and internationally.
Robert draws on about ten years of practice to shape sessions around each person’s needs. He listens carefully and helps people spot patterns that keep problems going.
Background and approach
From there he offers strategies drawn from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, plus attachment-informed thinking, to build clearer choices and better coping skills. Sessions aim to be down to earth and goal-focused. Robert uses brief exercises, gentle challenges and real-life homework to test what helps.
He also supports people dealing with career stress, relationship strain, compassion fatigue and life transitions. People raise many concerns with him, including depression, anger, body image, chronic health issues, addictions, communication problems and the effects of past abandonment. He also works with those involved in BDSM, kink and alternative sex culture on related worries and boundaries.
Practical arrangements include video calls, phone sessions, live chat or text-based messaging. Fees vary by location and are charged through a cancellable subscription. To begin, clients complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule sessions according to the therapist’s availability.
Focus areas and approaches
Everything Robert lists on their public professional profile, in their own terms.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Addictions
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
- Depression
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Coaching
- Compassion fatigue
- Abandonment
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Body image
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Robert names
- Systemic Therapy
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
- Jungian Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
Naming an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist lists and does not check training records.
Online support
How therapeutic approaches translate to online work
Systemic thinking looks at how a person's relationships and routines shape their stress and behaviour. Online sessions use that perspective to map interactions and spot small changes that can shift daily patterns. This approach is useful when anxiety, relationship strain or workplace pressures are part of the problem.Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice thoughts and feelings without getting driven by them, then focus on chosen values and actions. In remote sessions this often becomes practical exercises and short daily tasks to test new ways of responding. Attachment-Based Therapy explores how early bonds affect current trust and closeness; online work can bring these patterns into the conversation and try new ways of relating in real time.
Finding the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will discuss options and agree a plan based on the client's goals, preferences and what proves helpful in the first weeks. That collaborative process makes it easier to shift direction if something isn't working.
Online therapy offers flexibility through video calls, phone sessions, live chat or text-based messaging. Video suits in-depth conversations and exercises, phone calls work when bandwidth is limited, live chat can be a shorter check-in and messaging helps with day-to-day support between sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, travel or family life.
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Questions people ask
What kinds of problems does this counsellor help with?
He helps people with stress, anxiety, depression, addictions and low self-esteem. He also supports concerns like anger, relationship issues, career stress and coping with life changes.
What is the therapist's main approach in sessions?
He uses a systemic perspective alongside practical therapies to spot patterns in relationships and daily life. Sessions combine listening, short exercises and strategies to test what makes a difference.
How long has he been practising?
He has around 10 years of clinical experience working with a wide range of issues and people from different backgrounds.
What are his credentials and where is he based?
He is registered as NCPS and is based in the United Kingdom.
Which languages are available for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English, Afrikaans and Portuguese.
Can people outside the UK work with him?
Yes, he accepts international clients and works with people in different countries.
What session formats does he use?
Sessions are available by video calls, phone, live chat or text-based messaging to suit different needs and schedules.
How are fees handled and how do I get started?
Costs vary by location and are billed through a subscription that can be cancelled at any time. To start, use the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule sessions.
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